“ WEEK 130 / 133 – 133 WEEKS TO SUCCESS “

People will say things that will offend you. You will say things that, despite your best intentions, will offend other people. One of the best systems I’ve ever learned to help determine if something you’re about to say might be misconstrued is the traffic light system.




Under the traffic light tactic, ask yourself if the words coming out of your mouth would be considered red, yellow, or green. Green comments are generally positive and difficult to misconstrue—think of facts. Yellow comments are right on the border where you may need to take pause before proceeding. They may be true, but they should also be said cautiously and with care, such as if you need to give feedback or reprimand someone. Red comments are a hard no AKA all the things that come out of your mouth when you’re angry or simply not thinking clearly.




You should strive to be in an environment where you can be yourself and express yourself with no pretense. Speak freely but know that what you say can and will be interpreted through the perspective of another, so they may jive with or have a completely different viewpoint of what your bottom line intent is. Don’t ever let that stop you from speaking your piece.







@AlphaFemSociety tweets by @KellyRGonzales



Each week, I take a tip from Lois P. Frankel’s book, Nice Girls Still Don’t Get the Corner Office, and explore how each of these tips affect myself and other women in similar positions on the road to becoming the women we want to be. There are far and few between who are a few steps behind me, and many more who are far advanced. I found that Lois P. Frankel’s advice applied to novice, intermediates, and experts alike. It helped me see that I was already doing right, served as a reminder to keep on doing what I was doing and how to keep that momentum going. The book also showed me areas where I could improve, and gave realistic tips to jump on board. There are a total of 133 tips, and explore one tip per week in a program I call: 133 Weeks to Success.

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