“ WEEK 127 / 133 – 133 WEEKS TO SUCCESS “
Rearranging your life is like getting a haircut. Sometimes you do it for all the wrong reasons. When things fall through the cracks, are you there to see that you catch them before they hit the ground? Are you the problem preventer or the problem solver, and should you be either/or?
At the start of my career, I thought of myself as a problem solver. Mistakes were mine to cover up and errors were puzzles to fix. After a while, I had to realize that all the problems around me were not mine to take care of, and it was just setting the wrong precedent, one of irresponsibility, laziness, and dependability.
Then, I decided to become a problem preventer. I would streamline my days and figure out how to be efficient as possible. I would try my hand at mindreading and attempt to figure out what colleagues and clients needed before they even opened their mouths. Perhaps I could actually tell when that lightbulb was going to go out.
There’s a time to be reactive and there’s a time to be proactive. You cannot be just one or the other, and you definitely cannot be both at all times. There will be people who you come across that you give an inch to and they take a mile. No pleasing their voracious appetite for gut-wrenching conflict and perpetual mollification. You will also run into cases where no matter how well you think you know someone and their situation, you will be wrong.
Don’t rearrange your life just because someone else is mildly inconvenienced. Get to the root of their inconvenience, and you’ll soon find that the minor inconvenience is actually related to a much bigger issue. Sometimes that greater issue you can tackle head-on, but sometimes it has absolutely nothing to do with you. You cannot anticipate everything. You cannot control everything. You can only anticipate that there will be things you cannot control, and then decide how you will solve the problem.
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Each week, I take a tip from Lois P. Frankel’s book, Nice Girls Still Don’t Get the Corner Office, and explore how each of these tips affect myself and other women in similar positions on the road to becoming the women we want to be. There are far and few between who are a few steps behind me, and many more who are far advanced. I found that Lois P. Frankel’s advice applied to novice, intermediates, and experts alike. It helped me see that I was already doing right, served as a reminder to keep on doing what I was doing and how to keep that momentum going. The book also showed me areas where I could improve, and gave realistic tips to jump on board. There are a total of 133 tips, and explore one tip per week in a program I call: 133 Weeks to Success.
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