Week 115: The Stamp and The Steamroller – #AlphaFemaleFriday
“ WEEK 115 / 133 – 133 WEEKS TO SUCCESS “
You’ve seen those motivational posters and countless Pinterest quotes that tell you to be brave and speak your mind. What happens when you don’t speak your mind? You end up “blowing a gasket” and there’s far too much emotion involved. You’re essentially putting on a stamp with a steamroller when a simple glue stick would have done the job. It’s overcompensation at its finest.
If something bothers you, don’t stay silent about it. Don’t hold a grudge, let it simmer, and randomly bring it up five years later. Take a step back, take a breath, and then bring up your point. I try to carry a little notebook and pen everywhere I go because when an idea strikes, I need to write it down right then and there. I have to or else I will forget, and then if I try to conjure the point up later, it’s something totally different with a whole new meaning. The thought is lost.
When we don’t take the time to gather up our thoughts and say what needs to be said, we become volatile. We appear to speak gibberish as we spew it all out in an attempt to finally get a point across—but it’s too late. Whether in your professional life or personal life, don’t restrain yourself. You can show your emotions and still be a totally rational person. Be consistent by being genuine, and this can help you learn to trust your emotions and instincts.
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Each week, I take a tip from Lois P. Frankel’s book, Nice Girls Still Don’t Get the Corner Office, and explore how each of these tips affect myself and other women in similar positions on the road to becoming the women we want to be. There are far and few between who are a few steps behind me, and many more who are far advanced. I found that Lois P. Frankel’s advice applied to novice, intermediates, and experts alike. It helped me see that I was already doing right, served as a reminder to keep on doing what I was doing and how to keep that momentum going. The book also showed me areas where I could improve, and gave realistic tips to jump on board. There are a total of 133 tips, and explore one tip per week in a program I call: 133 Weeks to Success.
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