“ WEEK 109 / 133 – 133 WEEKS TO SUCCESS “
Before you can be truly innovative, you must know what has been done before. Learn the rules of the game, and then you can either manipulate them or completely dismiss them. Think of a great painter: they all learned the fundamentals of drawing and painting prior to flipping art on its head and coming up with their signature style.
I’ve been thinking a lot about what it means to stick to the traditional rules and advice that we know to be true. They say to work diligently, concentrate on your goals, and your envisioned desires will end up in your favor. If this was really the case, then why do so many people fall behind? Why are there still so many workers who spend countless hours in the office or students who study into the wee hours who don’t achieve what they aim for?
What I’ve seen is that so many people can grasp the big concepts that are reiterated over and over again, the sort of digestible guidelines that look great on framed poster on your office, but we tend to forget or overlook the finer details. We remember to be as productive as possible, show face, and put our best foot forward, but we sometimes we forget how much of a distance (or lack thereof) we put between ourselves and someone from another country, or whether to shake their hands versus bow politely. We forget to say “bless you” and we forget to spit out our gum before a meeting. We forget that we shouldn’t put on lipstick in public.
Success is not just knowing the rules and choosing whether or not to apply them. Success is being genuine in our efforts. People can tell whether or not our actions are really genuine. Most importantly, so can you. Not remembering all the nitty gritty, modern or foreign cultural norms can be forgiven, but what cannot be forgiven is if we do not try. You may not be able to see each and every inch and corner of the globe in our lifetime, but you can still make the effort to try to do so. The same goes for learning the so-called rules, or at least attempting to learn. Make the effort learn as much as you can, but then know that what you learn can be forgotten from one moment to the next.
It feels impossible to keep up with all these tiny stipulations. How do we do it all? There are always new rules popping up as society evolves and cultural norms change. If you’ve ever seen an episode of Mad Men, you’ll take note that most offices today don’t approve drinking and smoking in the boardroom. Seek to educate yourself and people will recognize that. You’ll never be able to keep up with all the changes, and that’s okay.
@AlphaFemSociety tweets by @KellyRGonzales
Each week, I take a tip from Lois P. Frankel’s book, Nice Girls Still Don’t Get the Corner Office, and explore how each of these tips affect myself and other women in similar positions on the road to becoming the women we want to be. There are far and few between who are a few steps behind me, and many more who are far advanced. I found that Lois P. Frankel’s advice applied to novice, intermediates, and experts alike. It helped me see that I was already doing right, served as a reminder to keep on doing what I was doing and how to keep that momentum going. The book also showed me areas where I could improve, and gave realistic tips to jump on board. There are a total of 133 tips, and explore one tip per week in a program I call: 133 Weeks to Success.
Join the movement using the hashtag #133WeeksToSuccess with posts which are posted every #AlphaFemaleFriday.