Week 108: Tricking Your Body Into Confidence – #AlphaFemaleFriday
“ WEEK 108 / 133 – 133 WEEKS TO SUCCESS “
There is a body posture confidence trick where you can stand in front a mirror, force yourself to stand up straighter, widen your stance, and basically become a human gorilla. There is a TED Talk by Amy Cuddy, social psychologist, on the importance of Power Stances. The whole premise behind these Power Stances is not to “Fake It Till You Make It”, but to “Fake It Till You Become It”. In the same way you may feel sad but force yourself to laugh or smile until you actually do become happy, you can use Power Stances as an instant boost throughout the day.
Using a Power Stance is not just about conveying to others that you are a confident person. That is “faking it till you make it”. Using a Power Stance is about becoming confident and accepting yourself as a confident person, and that is the caveat to “faking it till you become it”. These small changes can make a world of difference at very little cost to you.
Whether you’re preparing for a big meeting or presentation, or you simply just need a pick-me-up during the day, give a Power Stance a try. Even when you’re sitting, you can still practice a sitting Power Stance. Do you ever tuck your foot under your bottom in your chair, curling up like a cute, little cat? Don’t do that in the workplace, especially if you’re sitting in a public setting such as the boardroom. Many people, and I’ve been guilty of this myself many times, don’t even realize they’re doing it. Sit up straight and practice good posture: it’s good for your work and your health.
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Each week, I take a tip from Lois P. Frankel’s book, Nice Girls Still Don’t Get the Corner Office, and explore how each of these tips affect myself and other women in similar positions on the road to becoming the women we want to be. There are far and few between who are a few steps behind me, and many more who are far advanced. I found that Lois P. Frankel’s advice applied to novice, intermediates, and experts alike. It helped me see that I was already doing right, served as a reminder to keep on doing what I was doing and how to keep that momentum going. The book also showed me areas where I could improve, and gave realistic tips to jump on board. There are a total of 133 tips, and explore one tip per week in a program I call: 133 Weeks to Success.
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