Week 100: The Inappropriate Smile – #AlphaFemaleFriday
“ WEEK 100 / 133 – 133 WEEKS TO SUCCESS “
Is it possible to smile too often? In a world full of emojis (you’ve seen them on your phone, and you’ve seen them smiling at you on department store shelves), can we overdo it? The answer is yes. For any business person, especially those in sales, we often have to paint a pretty smile on our faces to be warm and inviting. We want to be likeable among those that we work closely with.
How many women have been told by complete strangers, just walking down the street and going about their day, to smile a little more? It’s no wonder so many women, since they were little girls, are guilty of smiling too much. It’s been ingrained into our minds by various and persistent sources.
I’ve been guilty of it—smiling at extremely inappropriate times, or laughing when simply just nervous about a situation. We use sarcasm in a guise of humor when we’re really using it as a defense mechanism. In our personal life, we could be seen as passive aggressive. In our careers, this can become quickly detrimental to a daily operation.
In situations where you feel like you aren’t in tune with what would be an appropriate reaction, take a deep breath and step back. Listen and observe. We may awkwardly laugh or smile because we just don’t know what else to do, but it may be better to read the room. Whatever comes next ends up becoming your most genuine reaction as opposed to a forced smile, and what’s better than being your most candid self?
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Each week, I take a tip from Lois P. Frankel’s book, Nice Girls Still Don’t Get the Corner Office, and explore how each of these tips affect myself and other women in similar positions on the road to becoming the women we want to be. There are far and few between who are a few steps behind me, and many more who are far advanced. I found that Lois P. Frankel’s advice applied to novice, intermediates, and experts alike. It helped me see that I was already doing right, served as a reminder to keep on doing what I was doing and how to keep that momentum going. The book also showed me areas where I could improve, and gave realistic tips to jump on board. There are a total of 133 tips, and explore one tip per week in a program I call: 133 Weeks to Success.
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