Week 81: Overexplaining – #AlphaFemaleFriday


“ WEEK 81 / 133 – 133 WEEKS TO SUCCESS “

Last week, I thought about the negative consequences of a lengthy preamble. The counterpoint to the lengthy preamble is the unnecessary overexplaination. Have you ever made a decision or mentioned your opinion on a topic and ended up explaining your life story instead? If a point requires clarification or justification, of course it’s important to provide some background info.




You know you’re going too far off the explanation deep end when you’ve entered a whole other topic. If you remember taking the dreaded SATs in high school, then you may have remembered that there was a key methodology to writing essays for a favorable score. There was the intro, followed by three illustrative points with each point having 1-2 supporting opinions or facts behind them, and the conclusion that tied all three points together. While I don’t think this method is the best method out there for explaining whatever you may feel needs to be said, thinking about this basic method is a way to ask yourself, “am I overexplaining my point?”




I believe in illustrating your stories and living a colorful life. I also believe that more is said when we take a moment to stop and see if what we said was enough. We will forget what people say, but we will never forget how they made us feel. As long as what we say is genuine and from the heart, then we may continue to speak and lead with success. That is the point.






@AlphaFemSociety tweets by @KellyRGonzales



Each week, I take a tip from Lois P. Frankel’s book, Nice Girls Still Don’t Get the Corner Office, and explore how each of these tips affect myself and other women in similar positions on the road to becoming the women we want to be. There are far and few between who are a few steps behind me, and many more who are far advanced. I found that Lois P. Frankel’s advice applied to novice, intermediates, and experts alike. It helped me see that I was already doing right, served as a reminder to keep on doing what I was doing and how to keep that momentum going. The book also showed me areas where I could improve, and gave realistic tips to jump on board. There are a total of 133 tips, and explore one tip per week in a program I call: 133 Weeks to Success.

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