Week 80: Getting to the Point – #AlphaFemaleFriday
“ WEEK 80 / 133 – 133 WEEKS TO SUCCESS “
Straight shooters can be seen as blunt, arrogant, and uncouth by people who like to take the scenic route on the way to the truth. I’m all for an honest delivery, but there’s certainly a fine balance between direct and careless. There’s a tip for packing that says: pack whatever you think you need, then take away half of that. I believe the same holds true for when it comes to saying what we need to say.
We enter into preambles when we’re stalling, when we’re not sure what to say, or we’re afraid that what we say will lead to a negative reaction. We can be steadfast, earnest, and kind, even when we say the truth. You can always turn it around and make it into something positive. The more that I’ve gotten to know different people, the more I’ve realized that even when someone says something that may come off as rude or harsh, I take a step back and tell myself to not take it so personally.
More than half the time, it turns out they’re being “rude” in my mind because they’re battling their own personal struggles. Taking a step back, saying my brief but honest piece allows me to say what I need to say, and allows another person to also really get to the root of what they need.
Think about what you want to ask or say, whether it be asking for a favor or speaking up during a meeting, and get to the point. If possible, divide the rambling in half. When you speak, you’re not writing an essay. There’s no need for a preamble. Keep the social graces in there, but don’t lose sight of your honesty.
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Each week, I take a tip from Lois P. Frankel’s book, Nice Girls Still Don’t Get the Corner Office, and explore how each of these tips affect myself and other women in similar positions on the road to becoming the women we want to be. There are far and few between who are a few steps behind me, and many more who are far advanced. I found that Lois P. Frankel’s advice applied to novice, intermediates, and experts alike. It helped me see that I was already doing right, served as a reminder to keep on doing what I was doing and how to keep that momentum going. The book also showed me areas where I could improve, and gave realistic tips to jump on board. There are a total of 133 tips, and explore one tip per week in a program I call: 133 Weeks to Success.
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