Week 69: Illuminating Accomplishments- #AlphaFemaleFriday
“ WEEK 69 / 133 – 133 WEEKS TO SUCCESS ”
A few weeks ago, I talked about what happens when we minimize our work. This week, I’ve been thinking about what happens when we become our own biggest obstacles. Have you ever been guilty of not only downsizing your accomplishments, but not talking about them at all? I had dinner and drinks with an old friend a few weeks ago, and during that time, we began to catch up about our lives: personal and career.
She mentioned to me that one of her struggles was going on interviews and not knowing which accomplishments to highlight. She would say the things she was skilled at, and shrugged them off, explaining that those skills were commonplace. While there are so many people who do describe themselves as organized, passionate, and dedicated workers, it’s how we talk about these skills and the examples that we give that really illuminate what we have accomplished.
Alpha Female Society was my first ever blog that I had put money down in order to buy the domain. It was my first investment in a project that I hoped would succeed on its own terms. Now, I’m branching out and creating my first ever website (KellyAnnGonzales.com—coming soon!) that showcases who I am, what I have accomplished, and where I aim to go from here. I’m sitting there, staring at the blank canvas before me, and I think to myself, “I have no idea what I’m doing.”
After fiddling around for a solid half an hour, I realized that I needed to take a step back and take the time to ask myself the questions that needed to be answered before I published my portfolio for good. This website will be even more than my LinkedIn resume or the blog where I talk about what it means to be a woman finding that work-life integration in the Greater New York City area. This is my life—what do I want it to be?
All I know for sure is that whatever I do end up putting on my website, I hope to be as authentic as possible. I believe in living a life where the way I think is in line with the way that I act. It’s a skill that will take years, may be even a lifetime, to master. After all, how many times can we say that we’re both perfectly calm on the outside and inside? As much as we need to practice the art of self-control, we also need to practice the art of letting go.
When we let go of the person we were, the parts that are no longer true to us, that’s when we can become who we want to be. We may be born or raised to be act and believe on thing, but it is within our own power to craft the people who we want to showcase to the world. That is the authentic life I hope I, and you, can always live.
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Each week, I take a tip from Lois P. Frankel’s book, Nice Girls Still Don’t Get the Corner Office, and explore how each of these tips affect myself and other women in similar positions on the road to becoming the women we want to be. There are far and few between who are a few steps behind me, and many more who are far advanced. I found that Lois P. Frankel’s advice applied to novice, intermediates, and experts alike. It helped me see that I was already doing right, served as a reminder to keep on doing what I was doing and how to keep that momentum going. The book also showed me areas where I could improve, and gave realistic tips to jump on board. There are a total of 133 tips, and explore one tip per week in a program I call: 133 Weeks to Success.
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