Week 66: Waiting to be Noticed- #AlphaFemaleFriday
“ WEEK 66 / 133 – 133 WEEKS TO SUCCESS ”
I went to a comedy show the other week where the comedian, a Gen Xer, made blunt observations about the typical behaviors of millennials. We are spoiled, entitled, and need a doggy treat every time we do something remarkable like brushing our teeth on a daily basis. We get it. We’ve heard it all, despite what you may think when we have our faces glued to our smartphones.
This week I’ve been thinking about what the importance of making sure you are noticed—outside of cute selfies, of course. Whether you’re a boomer, a Gen Xer, or a millennial (guilty as charged because this is totally going on my blog), there may have been a point in each of our careers where we just waited to be noticed. We made excuses for ourselves, saying that once I do something noteworthy or get a high power position, that will be when people will notice me. They’ll begin to notice me because that’s when I’ll be worthy of being noticed.
False. Absolutely false. Don’t wait to be noticed. Put yourself out there. I’ve said this in about every post I’ve written, but I’ll say it again: no one will vouch for you the way you vouch for yourself. As Janet Jackson sang, “What have you done for me lately?” Even if you do something special once, don’t let that be the only time. Know that whatever you did that was special, you still have the character and drive to do something just as special if not more. If, for whatever reason, you think you have never done anything special, ask yourself: what do you consider special? What would it take to get yourself there? Make the action plans necessary and go do them.
As you go on your path to be noticed, know that that attention comes with repercussions. It is up to you to take them personally and shrink back into your turtle shell, or to take it as constructive feedback and grow as a person. I’ve heard people who lament about difficult bosses with impossible expectations.
I understand where they’re coming from, because we cannot and certainly should not do everything under the sun in a matter of a standard, 8-hour work day (do they exist anymore?) Overcoming challenging expectations or learning to compromise is a great hurdle, and an opportunity for learning where we see what our greatest strengths are (Negotiation? Running lean and efficiently?) and where we could have room for improvement. There is always room for feedback and learning. You just need to put yourself out there to find out.
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Each week, I take a tip from Lois P. Frankel’s book, Nice Girls Still Don’t Get the Corner Office, and explore how each of these tips affect myself and other women in similar positions on the road to becoming the women we want to be. There are far and few between who are a few steps behind me, and many more who are far advanced. I found that Lois P. Frankel’s advice applied to novice, intermediates, and experts alike. It helped me see that I was already doing right, served as a reminder to keep on doing what I was doing and how to keep that momentum going. The book also showed me areas where I could improve, and gave realistic tips to jump on board. There are a total of 133 tips, and explore one tip per week in a program I call: 133 Weeks to Success.
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