Week 58: Negative Stories and the Art of Happiness– #AlphaFemaleFriday
“ WEEK 58 / 133 – 133 WEEKS TO SUCCESS ”
The cliques and the drama don’t end in high school. They continue onto your workplace as you get older, and despite how mature people appear to be in their high buttoned power suits and shiny stilettos, inside of them is that bright-eyed adolescent who managed to crawl out of their long lost glory days or a past they are glad to have left behind.
Gossip will continue, and some will be positive appraisals as people mention your name, and others will be snappy and negative. Not everyone will love you, but they must respect you and you must respect others even if they don’t shower you in adoration and candy hearts. Negative stories about you and others will come and go, but you must be resilient in holding your head up high.
When others talk negatively about other people in front of you, try to see the good in everyone despite how obvious their flaws might be. (We’ve all been there where we may be grasping at straws to say something nice, but as your mama once said, if you have nothing nice to say…)
Happiness is more than an emotion. It’s a skill, and most people don’t practice it enough. It ebbs and flows, just like other emotions, but we have to keep at it every day. Happiness just doesn’t come naturally to most people, and fantastic for you if it does! We must be passionate about what we do in both the workplace and our personal lives, and we need to appreciate and show gratitude for those who we spend those hours with.
There will be days that are really tough. There will be days where people will tell you “have a good day!” and you just think to yourself that today is just really not a good day. Don’t give up. There is a tomorrow and the sun will still rise. Keep at it. Until then, just have a day.
Cheers and Happy 2016!
@AlphaFemSociety tweets by @KellyRGonzales
Each week, I take a tip from Lois P. Frankel’s book, Nice Girls Still Don’t Get the Corner Office, and explore how each of these tips affect myself and other women in similar positions on the road to becoming the women we want to be. There are far and few between who are a few steps behind me, and many more who are far advanced. I found that Lois P. Frankel’s advice applied to novice, intermediates, and experts alike. It helped me see that I was already doing right, served as a reminder to keep on doing what I was doing and how to keep that momentum going. The book also showed me areas where I could improve, and gave realistic tips to jump on board. There are a total of 133 tips, and explore one tip per week in a program I call: 133 Weeks to Success.
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