Week 50: Embracing Quid Pro Quo – #AlphaFemaleFriday
“ WEEK 50 / 133 – 133 WEEKS TO SUCCESS ”
The sign for me that I was entering into more challenging and rewarding opportunities was that more people put themselves out there to partner with me. Some people went out of their way to mention they would like to partner on a project with me, and others I asked if they would like to join me on a project, and they delightfully volunteered and agreed to put their very best foot forward. Instead of running around solo, I was starting to have more people in my corner.
It’s taken me some time to get comfortable with the idea of asking others for help, and to understand the importance of quid pro quo. I have always loved to step outside of my comfort zone and take educated risks, but I was so used to doing it alone. In my mind, I thought that if I failed, no one would know the wiser, and if I succeeded, then I could take all the credit. No man or woman is an island, and it was beginning to get exceedingly more difficult to operate on solo missions.
I’ve come to love the idea of quid pro quo. I love asking people for help when there’s a project that can use more than two hands. There’s something truly valuable about going out of your way to help other people, but that should also be an incentive to make sure you help yourself in the process. Businesses for profit are meant to operate as such, and we can’t and shouldn’t do everything for scraps and pats on the back.
On the flip side, I’ve also been asked to jump into certain projects or help out when I was stretched way too thin. I’m not doing anyone a favor if I can’t give my 110 percent. I have learned to stop volunteering when the quality of lack thereof wouldn’t reflect my true capabilities. There’s no shame in saying no, just as there’s no shame in wanting something in return on the two-way street of beneficial relationships. We must put continue ourselves out there when the worst we can hear is “no” and the best we can hear is yet to come!
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Each week, I take a tip from Lois P. Frankel’s book, Nice Girls Still Don’t Get the Corner Office, and explore how each of these tips affect myself and other women in similar positions on the road to becoming the women we want to be. There are far and few between who are a few steps behind me, and many more who are far advanced. I found that Lois P. Frankel’s advice applied to novice, intermediates, and experts alike. It helped me see that I was already doing right, served as a reminder to keep on doing what I was doing and how to keep that momentum going. The book also showed me areas where I could improve, and gave realistic tips to jump on board. There are a total of 133 tips, and explore one tip per week in a program I call: 133 Weeks to Success.
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