Week 16: Speak Your Peace – #AlphaFemaleFriday
“ WEEK 16 / 133 – 133 WEEKS TO SUCCESS ”
I originally thought about entitling this piece “The Blame Game”, but I decided to go with something a bit more positive. This week, I’m focusing the idea of speaking your piece with peace. By this, I mean say what needs to be said, but say it without being accusatory or unnecessarily aggressive. Say your point, but don’t point your fingers.
When I first started my career, I felt like I constantly needed to give in, acquiesce, apologize, and placate. I thought it was better to be humble and to not make unnecessary waves. A few years into this industry and a few months into my new position, I find myself realizing that if I had kept doing what I was doing, my down-to-earth nature would not only be taken advantage of, it would also eventually be seen as insincere.
The idea of being fake or not true to myself was disappointing on several levels. Now I know that being open and honest and only apologizing when something truly needs to be apologized for is worth and respected much more than constantly placating for the smallest of fouls and follies.
At times it feels against my nature to not appease and placate, as every person in the hospitality industry goes into the business knowing you’re here and there to help and serve others, but as the saying goes: you can’t help others if you can’t help yourself. I delved into this week, and will continue to grow and develop in the weeks to come, knowing that sometimes the best thing to do is say your piece with peace, and do what you think needs to be done. Eventually, by building your honest character, you build your reputation. Everything falls into place.
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Each week, I take a tip from Lois P. Frankel’s book, Nice Girls Still Don’t Get the Corner Office, and explore how each of these tips affect myself and other women in similar positions on the road to becoming the women we want to be. There are far and few between who are a few steps behind me, and many more who are far advanced. I found that Lois P. Frankel’s advice applied to novice, intermediates, and experts alike. It helped me see that I was already doing right, served as a reminder to keep on doing what I was doing and how to keep that momentum going. The book also showed me areas where I could improve, and gave realistic tips to jump on board. There are a total of 133 tips, and explore one tip per week in a program I call: 133 Weeks to Success.
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