Week 12: Don’t Wait For It – #AlphaFemaleFriday
“ WEEK 12 / 133 – 133 WEEKS TO SUCCESS ”
One of the biggest things that changed my perspective on myself and others was this personality quiz I took. The personality quiz asked you to think of how you were when you were a child, and to associate those specific traits with a certain set of words. In that set, you picked the trait or characteristic which applied most to you. The quiz has continued to be spot-on for both myself and others who have taken it.
The different colors were: red, blue, white, and yellow. The reds are motivated by power: responsible, decisive, proactive, and assertive. The blues are motivated by intimacy: loyal, sincere, and thoughtful. The whites are motivated by peace: kind, adaptable, and good-listeners. The yellows are motivated by fun: charismatic, spontaneous, and sociable.
I am a true blue, also known as the loyal albeit fierce bulldog. I can be described as aggressive in some ways, at least in terms of knowing exactly what I want when I want it and being painfully ambitious and Type A. At the same time, I want to ensure that the people I surround myself with are able to deal with me knowing they are going to go into a win-win situation. I love compromise, and I don’t like to put others in unfavorable positions just so I can be a momentary winner.
This week’s focus is on getting what you want and being clear about your intentions. For the most part, I am very good at this. Other times, because of my loyal bulldog personality, I run into situations where because of my desire to be helpful to others, I lose sight of my own needs or goals. I’m learning that fine balance between recognizing my limitations and understanding when it is time to push that envelope.
The further I delve into and grow in my career, the more new challenges arise which test my mental, emotional, and physical boundaries. I learn to manage expectations, and carefully observe and analyze how to get what I need without putting another’s needs in jeopardy. At the same time, with every challenge I have faced, whether I have succeeded and shined like a star or failed miserably and been burned down to a crisp, there has always been an opportunity to learn something new.
In spite of my desire to be loyal to others, I’ve realized that I must and most importantly be loyal to myself. To forgive myself when I err, and to push myself to get what I need when I need it. Thankfully now that I’ve learned “my color”, I’ve learned that the way to motivate myself to get what I want isn’t for the power, the peace, or the fun of it all: it’s for the connection to be with and understand others — which is exactly why I got into the hospitality industry in the first place.
If you’re curious about this quiz, you can take the quiz here 🙂 : https://www.colorcode.com/personality_test/
@AlphaFemSociety tweets by @KellyRGonzales
Each week, I take a tip from Lois P. Frankel’s book, Nice Girls Still Don’t Get the Corner Office, and explore how each of these tips affect myself and other women in similar positions on the road to becoming the women we want to be. There are far and few between who are a few steps behind me, and many more who are far advanced. I found that Lois P. Frankel’s advice applied to novice, intermediates, and experts alike. It helped me see that I was already doing right, served as a reminder to keep on doing what I was doing and how to keep that momentum going. The book also showed me areas where I could improve, and gave realistic tips to jump on board. There are a total of 133 tips, and explore one tip per week in a program I call: 133 Weeks to Success.
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